After 75 years, a couple ties the knot – again
I t was love at first sight. Chesterfield residents Delmer and Agnes Farmer went on their first date on Halloween in 1941. And that was all it took: Delmer proposed to Agnes in December of that year, and the two were married on Feb. 9, 1942. Delmer was 21 and Agnes was 16.
The ceremony was held at the home of the pastor of Branch’s Baptist Church on a Monday, and the next day, the newlyweds went back to their jobs. There was no church wedding with bridesmaids and groomsmen – and no honeymoon.
Eight months later, Delmer was drafted by the U.S. Army and eventually assigned to anti-aircraft duty under Gen. George S. Patton. Delmer served for “three years, two months and seven days,” he said. When World War II ended, he was 16 miles east of Berlin.
Seventy-five years after tying the knot, Delmer and Agnes were finally able to walk down the aisle. On Saturday, in front of family and friends, the couple renewed their vows at Clover Hill Baptist Church.
This time, there was a bridesmaid – 11-year-old great-granddaughter Savannah Farmer – as well as a flower girl – 6-year-old great-granddaughter Morgan Snider.
Pastor emeritus Calvin Eaves and associate pastor Abe Simon officiated.
“I’ve never met anybody that could say they were married for 75 years,” Eaves told those in attendance.
Steadying himself with his river birch cane and standing resolute, 89-year-old Simon drew laughter when he said in his East Texas drawl, “Well sir, we are reaching way back for this one, so we might as well go all the way back to the beginning.”
Simon said Delmer, 96, and Agnes, 91, were brought together by God. “He in his wisdom picked Delmer and Agnes just for each other,” Simon said. “Delmer, you may kiss your bride.”
Saturday’s vow renewal was arranged by the Farmers’ two children, daughter Dale Moore and son Ron Farmer.
“It’s just something that my mother really wanted to do, so we wanted to make her happy,” Dale said. “It’s wonderful.”
Ron spoke in a similar vein.
“It’s unbelievable,” he said. “Right now I just can’t believe they’ve been married 75 years. They deserve this.”
More than 100 guests helped the happy couple celebrate.
“It means a whole lot,” Delmer said.
“I’m just happy we’re here,” Agnes added. “I wish I had another 75 years.”
When problems arise, Delmer said, the key to a good marriage is to “just iron it out.”
“Always be together and never go to bed mad,” Agnes added. “He’s the best man on earth. He is really good. He’s really been a good husband.”
In addition to their children, the Farmers have five grandchildren and 10 great-grandchildren.
Outside of Delmer’s two back operations, neither has had serious health setbacks. Agnes doesn’t drive and Delmer stopped driving about two months ago. They live alone, with their children serving as their primary caregivers.
At 50, Lisa Jenks is the Farmers’ oldest grandchild.
“I think it’s very special,” Jenks said of her grandparents renewing their vows. “They both love each other and they’ve always loved me and the rest of the family.
“I’m just glad that they’re here with us.” ¦